Coaching for High Conflict Separation & Divorce
Supporting Women and the LGBTQIA+ Community in Huddersfield and Slaithwaite
Are you living in a persistent state of fear because of family court proceedings or rage at a partner unwilling to co-parent respectfully while grieving the loss of your relationship and life plan?
You may find it near impossible to ground yourself when ongoing family court proceedings have made distress and uncertainty a constant presence in your life.
Perhaps you’re still deeply grieving the loss of your ex-partner, finding yourself enraged at where you have ended up, and feeling unable to find anyone around you who can relate to your experience.
You’ve probably noticed that solicitors and family courts often do not apply trauma-informed practices and this has increased your sense of isolation, fear, and rage.
You may also have become aware of the well-documented bias against mothers in family court proceedings despite a continued false cultural narrative about bias toward fathers.
If any of this resonates with you, you are likely feeling under-resourced, burned out, and alone.
This isn’t what you wanted, and you wish it would simply go away, and reveal its positive ending.
None of your friends or family can relate, and you’ve begun to doubt sharing the depth or complexity of your circumstances with anyone.
Constant worry about your kids, yourself, and your future has you doubting yourself —including your parenting and your ability to withstand the trauma of family court.
Daily life is a struggle. You’re longing for some peace - internally and externally.
Coaching for High Conflict Separation & Divorce
It likely feels far away and out of reach, but inner peace amidst this turmoil is attainable. You can learn new coping skills and communication strategies that will help you feel more in control of your situation, yourself and your future. Feeling more grounded in yourself, reclaiming your joy in parenting, and moving toward a positive and warm vision of the future are all reachable goals. I’m happy to help you get there.
My work with mothers in family court proceedings centres on the following themes:
1. Power, control, and helplessness
Acknowledging feelings of helplessness and powerlessness is common during high conflict separation and family court proceedings. We begin by holding ground for these difficult feelings—increasing tolerance for this particular discomfort and moving toward less overwhelm as they arise. Next, we’ll assess your expectations of the situation, examining realistically what is within your power to influence. We’ll use this assessment within narrative work, making room for retelling and reframing your story with the use of archetypes, symbols, or figures that move you.
2. Finding calm and joy in the midst of chronic stress and trauma
We’ll use somatic resourcing to help you tap into your power to regulate yourself, finding ways to access pleasure and ease, as well as understand your relationship to discomfort, displeasure, and fear. We’ll take a close look at what happens for you as you get triggered by reading solicitor emails or anticipating your day in court. Whatever it is, we’ll work towards building tools and expanding your capacity to cope on a day-to-day basis.
3. Separating you as ex-partner from you as co-parent
It may sound impossible to do this at first, while you’re grieving or enraged. But I am here to hold steady that you can make this shift. With practice and repetition of new communication strategies, you’ll begin to approach your situation differently, leading to fundamental and lasting changes in your outlook and self-concept. You can feel more in control of how you communicate with and respond to your ex-partner.
4. Finding a new meaning and rhythm of life
We’ll work on layers of core beliefs, identifying any that feel as though they aren’t serving you or that you wish weren’t true. We’ll move toward the kind of shift that can endure, regardless of the outcome of your proceedings, so you can emerge with a renewed sense of self that is steady in clarity and inner knowing.
We won’t approach this by expecting your partner, the courts, or society to change — we’ll work toward helping you make meaning out of your family court battle that solidifies your integrity and passion for life. By embracing your inner heroine, gaining a deeper understanding of your feelings, and developing tools to work with them, you can begin to feel more in control of what this profound challenge means for you.
You can reclaim peace and ease within your world.
I know how to help you get there.
Approaches in Counselling
Somatic
Relational
Person-Centered
Intersectional Feminism
Trauma-Informed
Anti-Oppressive
Sex-Positive
Fat-Positive
